I’m 25 and I’m an Indian male. Furthermore, I am single. Immediately, that raises red flags in an Indian household. I am 5 years away from 30 and in the prime of my life. As a result, it is time to find a mate and my mom is always asking me if I’m hiding a girl from her. The truth is there’s no hidden supermodel although maybe in an alternate universe, an alternate version of me is with said supermodel. However in this reality, the truth is I just haven’t found her yet. Truth is, I don’t know if she exists or if she’s merely a figment of my imagination.
I have a vision of what I’m looking for but that template changes quite frequently. I’m on a few dating sites but the main topic at hand has been working on myself. Ft. Bliss is lonely at times and I see these other soldiers with their wives and girlfriends and do envy them at times. On the other hand, I see all of the arguments and headaches that being in a relationship brings and at those times, I’m happy that I’m single. For whatever reason, on these dating sites, only obese women seem to want to meet me or message me. I understand everybody needs love but I’m in the military so any girl I ultimately end up with, I hope she’s in at least some kind of shape.
I want a girl that pushes me and challenges me, not one that encourages my laziness and does nothing to get me off of the couch. Also, the problem with these dating sites is that people can manufacture images just like they can on social media. A lot of these girls are not who they present themselves to be. Of course, this goes both ways as guys lie all of the time on these sites as well. Point being, it’s hard to find something real on these sites compounded by the fact that I don’t have a car right now.
I’ve always thought of myself as a lost puzzle piece. I know I fit in somewhere but it’s always been a journey of self-discovery. That discovery has not yet been made. I don’t know if there’s a female out there that can handle the brand of crazy I bring to the table. If she’s out there, then she deserves a medal for her skills in concealment.
Being single is not all that bad, at least I don’t have someone nagging and telling me what to do all the time. However, in Indian families, once you reach a certain age, the only topic of conversation seems to be marriage. I’m doing fine being single and then I’m constantly reminded how I have nobody by family members asking me when I’m getting married. My grandmother is eagerly awaiting the day I call her and tell her I’m getting married. This is even though I’ve told her countless times I’m never getting married. I’ve seen some horrible things in certain marriages and that has made me question whether I could ever trust a female like that. Marriage is a big step and one thing I hate is nagging. I don’t think I could be with a woman that nags 24/7. The main thing though, for me, is that I still have a lot to work on as a person before I can take on dealing with another person for the rest of my life. I don’t know. As you can surmise by reading this, I am quite perplexed when it comes to matters such as these.